Nobody cares.

Nobody cares. Nobody cares what you put on today, nobody cares what breakfast you had this morning, nobody cares how many likes you have on your pictures in social network, nobody cares how you will spend your weekend. Nobody cares. Absolutely.

You live your life, you have friends and haters. Ok, maybe not friends and not haters. Just people, some of them like you, some of them hate you. First stalker your social networks and praise your photos, admire your talents, your appearance and maybe something else. Second like to show you that you are a nothingness.

It is all temporary.

When all these aforesaid people will have their own affairs and problems, they will forget about you.

For example, there is a girl who doesn`t like you. She feels a pleasure saying bad things about you behind your back. But this is not forever, no. Some day or other something very bad will happen to her. For example, her father`s death. Or she will prepare to important exams. And that`s all. You will never see this angry, impudent and cheeky glance in your direction.

Or there is a girl who likes you and your page in social network. She always wants to talk to you, she likes all your photos. This is also not forever. Some day this girl will have a boyfriend or new friends. Real friends to whom she`ll trust. Or maybe this girl will find her dream and make it true. And that`s all. She won`t visit your page anymore. Maybe sometimes...that to read a few posts and smile.

Don`t make conclusions about your life based on the words of other people. If you have haters it doesn`t make you a bad or popular person. If you have fans it doesn`t make you a wonderful and perfect person. Everyone has an own life and everyone cares about his existence and well-being firstly.

Live like you want to live.

In any case nobody cares of others.

 

Why aren`t we happy in relationships?

There are three types of women: women-"daughters", women-"sisters" and women-"mothers". Same about men: men-"fathers", men-"brothers", men-"sons". And all of them coexist with each other only in pairs. "Fathers" are looking for "daughters" who are glamorous and beautiful and aren`t capable to earn money and cook even fried eggs. "Fathers" need to feel like patrons, defenders, sometimes even like owners. They like to understand that women are dependent of them.

"Brothers" are looking for "sisters" who have the same interests and hobbies, who are ready to go anywhere with them: in mountains, in a round-the-world travel, without regard to rain, snow and hail. "Brothers" like to watch football with "sisters", play video-games together and feel an equality of contribution to family and agreement of opinion in everything. 

"Sons" are looking for "mothers" because their mothers are not eternal, bosses are angry, life is very difficult and they cannot warm soup and choose the haircut. Of course, "sons" need someone who is responsible and will do everything for them. And "mother" will be happy near such "son" because she`s sure that he will die without her; that to ask a man to buy pork and cabbage it is receive the packing of smoked salted pork and the package of frozen broccoli; that men cannot wash the dishes and floor; that they are weak and need to be safe. 

Perfect relationships, how do you think? Everybody is happy. But what do we see in real life? Almost always three types of men fall in love with women-"daughters". The main function of woman-"daughter" -to look good and attract men- works perfectly. Then she is starting to choose that man who is better for her. Woman-"daughter" will never choose a man-"son". Only thing that she can do-to ask him go away and never come back. Man-"son" will shout that all women are bitches and can`t appreciate sincere qualities. Men-"brothers" are very stubborn sometimes and "daughters" think that such kind of relationships can not be bad. But then this couple finds many problems. He does all home work because she has a manicure; only he earns money; they want to spend vacation in different places; she doesn`t like his friends and he doesn`t like her friends. The result is a little predictable: divorce, fight for property and for children. He`s shouting that women are bitches and it will be better to be a bachelor. She`s counting how much money she took from him and looking for new husband.

A woman-"sister" is absolutely another than a woman-"daughter". She`s dressed in jeans, t-shirt and shoes without heels. She almost doesn`t have a make-up, can tell funny jokes all the time and her eyes are always happy. Man-"father" can impress a woman-"daughter" with wealth and big opportunities. He wants to see respect from her. But such couple almost never creates a family. When "sister" notices that "father" wants to be the main person in relationships, she will leave him without delay. Sometimes man-"son" creates a family with woman-"daughter" but results are not happy. First time she will enjoy the poems written in her honor but after a while she`ll be tired of husband who is not able to make important decisions and solve problems independently. Man-"son" will watch TV or play video-games and woman-"sister" will file for divorce. He won`t understand it because he was sure that their relationships were perfect.

Almost nobody likes women-"mothers" at once. They don`t have a "bright" appearance, they don`t dress good and all their interests are boring: knitting, embroidery, cooking, floriculture. These women are sure that beauty is not the main thing in a woman. Man-"father" will never marry a woman-"mother" because he wants to visit important business meetings with young and glamorous girlfriend, that  partners in work envied him. If "father" marries "mother", he will cheat her and then will get divorced took everything away from her, even children (if he needs them). 

Men-"brothers" don`t choose women-"mothers" too. They`ll be bored near them. "Brother" wants to travel, to ride a bike, to talk about sports, movies and clubs. "Mother" kills him with her excessive guardianship: she asks "brother" to put the warm socks on (and warm scarf, and warm hat, and underwear with a pile). He dreams about new car and she dreams about third child, but he doesn`t have enough money for three children. His friends annoy her. This kind of relationships doesn`t finish good: he leaves her, pays alimony and feels guilty because he destroyed the family. And she hates him because he left her and children. 

Familiar situations, don`t you think so? And many of you had the same in life. You say that all women are bitches or all men are morons because you choose "not your" people. You create wrong relationships with wrong men and women. It is necessary to understand what you want from life, what you like to do and what is interesting for you. You shouldn`t create relationships with person just because he/she is beautiful because then you will be disappointed that "son" is not a "brother" and "mother" can`t be a "daughter". Don`t choose people who cannot be "yours". You don`t take sausages in the shop if you are a vegan and eat only vegetables, right? The same is here: some people can`t give you all what you need. The main thing is to understand yourself and stop tormenting a wrong person because his and your couple suffer from loneliness and discrepancy with someone else.

Why the mankind still exists. Part 2.

I want to begin my first blog in 2015 about something nice and positive. This year began great therefore would be good to see it the same farther also.

I like to read about kind acts very much. People who make them are awesome and they inspire me. They show that our world can be saved from rage, envy and greed. I`d like to list those good deeds which were remembered to me more than others. Those acts which caused admiration tears inside me.

1.

The name of this elderly woman is Lilian Weber, she`s 99 now. Every day this American lady sews one dress for the needing African girls. Today she sewed more than 840 dresses and she isn`t going to stop. To her 100-year anniversary Lilian plans to sew 1000 dresses. She lives in the State of Iowa, USA and spends 3 hours with sewing machine every day. Lilian tries to create original dresses, that any dress didn`t repeat.

2.

This social experiment was directed on showing whether people are ready to share the food with other person or no. Guys approached those people who ate outside and asked about food. All people refused and looked at guys as at mentally ill people. Then they bought a pizza to homeless man, having presented by the charitable organization. When a man started eating, one of participants of the experiment came to him and asked to give him a pizza slice. Homeless man shared the food without fluctuating. Having eating pizza, guy thanked the homeless dude and gave him money for his generosity. Man understood that it was experiment, closes eyes that nobody saw he`s crying.

This experiment shows that you shouldn`t be rich if you want to help somebody. 

3.

In Russian city Tyumen was very cold last days (-40-53 degrees) and the owners of the shop offered free hot drinks to their buyers. ("Dear buyers! During hard frosts we are glad to offer you a free cup of coffee or tea that you were warmed".)

4.

This dude allowed to sit to sick old woman on his back when they got stuck in the elevator. She sat at him all the time while the elevator stood.

5. 

World Cup-2014 in Brazil. Fan from Netherlands had excess tickets for the match between Holland and Spain. Instead of selling them for the good sum, he presented those tickets to poor Brazilian boys. Look at this happy boy`s face! :)
P.S. The Dutch has the same happy face, probably kindness makes happy not only those people who receive it, but also those people who make it. 

6.

Every Wednesday and every Thursday the director of oncological center buys coffee at his own expense for all employees and patients of the center.

7.

The elderly man trains his wife in the alphabet after she lost memory.

8.

Guys from charitable organization crept imperceptibly to sleeping homeless man, put a Christmas tree near him and put the presents under it (warm socks, footwear, scarf, gloves, blanket, food). When the homeless woke up and saw all this, he began to thank God with tears.

9.

This girl draws a rainbow and gives it to everybody free-just for the good mood.

10. 

In memory of his died dog the owner left balls that everyone could play with pets.

11.

A father executed his son`s dream. His incapacitated son loves beautiful sports cars very much. When father asked what boy would like to get for Christmas, a son answered he would like to ride in the fast car but he knows it`s impossible. Then father wrote about his son`s desire at the forum of fans of sports cars and received three invitations to ride. A boy was happy. 

12.

65-year-old Isaak Teyl sits quietly in New York subway while some black man sleeps on his shoulder. When other passengers suggested to wake the stranger, Isaak said: "It isn`t necessary. Probably, he had a very hard day, let him sleep. All of us pass through it.".

13.

This brave boy risked his own life for the sake of the saving sinking baby deer during the flood in Bangladesh. 

14.

Two Pennsylvania teens are being hailed as heroes after they chased down a man in a car who had snatched a five-year-old girl from her grandmother's front yard - on their bikes .

A  5 year old girl, was missing for two hours yesterday when Temar Boggs and a friend saw the child in a car near Lancaster Township and gave chase.

After Boggs, 15, and his friend had been tailing the vehicle for 15 minutes, the driver let the little girl out of the car and sped off.

The  girl was playing in the front yard of her grandmother's home on the 100 block of Jennings Drive in Lancaster Township when she disappeared at about 4:35pm Thursday. 

The family notified police and officers sprang into action, blocking off streets and scouring the area with canine units. Police showed the child's picture around the neighborhood and Boggs and his friend joined more than 100 first responders searching for the girl.

Boggs spottted the girl in the abductor's car and he and his friend began to follow the car.  Boggs and his friends kept after the kidnapper. “We chased the car for fifteen minutes.” Eventually, the kidnapper, apparently unable to shake Temar Boggs and his friends, gave up his victim.

“I guess he got scared that we were chasing him, and he let her out….She ran to me and said she needed her mommy.”

Boggs put the girl on his shoulders and carried her while riding his bike, but he decided that that was too dangerous, and so he carried her the rest of the way.

'If he wasn't going to stop, I was probably going to like, jump on the car,'.

15.

82-year-old hairdresser takes the chair and toots outside every day and cuts everyone free of charge.

16.

14-year-old boy wrote this encouraging message on the snow, under the window of his mother`s chamber where she had a chemotherapy in hospital. 
"Hi, mom, God bless you".

17.

Elite runner Jaqueline Kiplimo helps a disabled Chinese athlete drink during the 2010 Zheng-Kai marathon. She stayed with him for several miles, costing her the 1st place finish and the $10000 prize.

18.

This girl Emma offered her gifts on birthday to help homeless pets.

Invitation to Emma`s birthday:

"Hi!
I am Emma and I am 8. Please, come and play with me. Friday, February 8, at 18:30. We will have cakes. Emma has one request. She doesn`t need gifts, instead of them she wants that you brought something for animals` shelter. Blankets, towels, food, toys and cat`s tolilets.
Thank you very much!"

19.

The security guard in "Magic Kindom" park knows how to make a child happy. When little girl came in the park, he called her princess and asked her autograph. A girl was very happy during the whole day that security guard apprehended her like real princess.

20.

The charitable organization Degage Ministries decided to show on example of the homeless veteran Jim Wolfe that to do good acts is easy. They decided to show that street tramps are the same people as we as well. Care of appearance-and homeless veteran turns into stylish, modern gentleman. Yes, it won`t save him instantly but will help to look at himself in a new way and try to change his life to the best.

21.

Mother gave a very nice present to daughter on her third birthday-return of her father from Afganistan where he served 1 year.

22.

This elderly man walks so with his old dog because she can`t go because of illness.

23.

Everybody can take the flowers here :)

24.

Animals who are traumatized or are born with mutilations, are doomed to death in the nature: they can`t care of themselves independently, so, sooner or later they will die from the illness or hunger. But under supervision of vigilant volunteers and loving owners even hopeless, apparently, disabled animals get the second chance.

25.

All homeless people can get a free meal every friday since 3 till 5.

26.

The next social experiment showing that not all homeless people can rob you. Guys passed near homeless people and dropped a purse. All homeless took the purse and only one man returned it to guys. This man received 1000$ for his honesty. He`s happy.

27.

The famous writer Joanne Rowling lost her status of the billionaire cus she spent a lot of money for charity. This is the first such case in history of Forbes.

28.

The real case that happened in American town Fresno. The ordinary fireman Cory Kalanick conducted the check in smoky room after fire and suddenly he saw a little kitten who wasn`t giving life signs. Cory decided to save it...

29.

But firemen save not only cats from fire. They have tiny oxygen masks for hamsters, rats and guinea pigs too! :)

30.

Rufina Ivanovna Korobeynikova tied and offered 300 couples of warm socks for the victim of flood in Khabarovsk.

31.

Serbian Renato Grbic was out fishing on the Danube with his brother when he heard a big splash. At first, he thought somebody had thrown something off the bridge.

Then he saw a man flailing in the water.

"We hurried and pulled the man out," Grbic recalls. "I remember telling him: Such a glorious day and you want to kill yourself!"

It was the first time Grbic saved a life. From that day 15 years ago, his own life would never be the same. The bright-eyed, tattooed restaurant owner from a shabby industrial zone on the outskirts of Belgrade has rescued 25 people who tried to kill themselves by jumping off the tall bridge over the Danube.

Always on alert in his little wooden motor boat, the burly 51-year-old has pulled people out of the river's muddy waters without asking for anything in return.

"I couldn't turn my back on them," Grbic said. "They are desperate people."

Grbic has been dubbed the "Superman of the Danube" by his admirers and awarded a hero's plaque by Belgrade city authorities. But even "Superman" can't save everybody who jumps off the 18-meter- (60-foot-) high bridge: At least as many as he had saved have killed themselves at the spot since Grbic's first rescue.

"When I hear that someone has jumped and I wasn't there I really feel bad," he said. "My eyes are always on the bridge."

The Pancevo bridge became a favored suicide spot because it is Belgrade's only bridge over the Danube, which is bigger and colder and has stronger underwater currents than the city's other river, the Sava.

The first person Grbic pulled out of the Danube turned out to be a mental patient. Grbic took him ashore, gave him dry clothes, hot tea and cigarettes. Later, an ambulance came and took the man away.

"That was it," Grbic says. "He didn't speak, they never do."

On one of those days, in mid-January about seven years ago, Grbic was just preparing to turn his boat to shore and go home — when he heard a scream.

An 18-year-old woman going through a mental crisis had burst out of her parents' car at the bridge, taken off her jacket and jumped, shouting: "Goodbye mom!"

The girl, Grbic said, is the only one who has stayed in touch.

Grbic said something had made him stick around: "It was a very windy day, a few minutes later and I would have gone."

Every January she comes to his fish restaurant to celebrate her "second birthday." She is married now and has a child. Grbic was invited to the wedding reception.

"My heart leaps every time I see her," he said.

Grbic has little or no information about what happened to the others he saved. It would be nice, he says, if they came to tell him how they were over a brandy at his restaurant.

"I gave them a second chance and it was up to them to use it well."



32.

In a close-knit Utah town where time has become a precious commodity for one family, the Christmas lights are already up and Halloween is in full swing 10 days early.

The town of West Jordan has come together to ensure that a 4-year-old boy with only a short time to live gets to make the most of it. Ethan Van Leuven has been battling acute lymphoblastic leukemia for more than half of his life, and doctors have declared that his illness is no longer treatable.

"So the doctors basically said, he's got two days to a couple of weeks left to live, and so that's when we thought we would make the most of the last days he has remaining with us,'' Ethan's father, Merrill Van Leuven, told Joe Fryer on TODAY Friday. 

On Tuesday night, the community of West Jordan celebrated Halloween 10 days early as Ethan put on his Superman costume and went trick-or-treating. Two days later, the town held a parade in honor of Ethan's fifth birthday, one month before the actual day.The week of holidays will continue on Friday when the community celebrates Christmas Eve, with everyone on the block putting up Christmas decorations.

The family and community are aiming to make every moment special for Ethan in his final days. On Saturday, they will celebrate Christmas, Ethan's favorite holiday. 

"It's a really difficult time, but this just makes it a little bit easier just to see how many people love and support,'' Jennifer said.



33.

The Swiss charity foundation Pro Infirmis made the social advertizing devoted to physically disabled people. Pro Infirmis replaced usual "perfect" dummies with specially made figures of real disabled people in the shop in Zurich.
Words "Because who is perfect?" became a slogan of the company about which 13 million people have known after this advertizing.

Kindness-is a great force.
If we will do more good things, more small miracles will happen all over the world.
We all aren`t perfect but if people are capable of such good acts, it means kindness is not lost.